William's eLetter 15 May 2020. EMPATHS, SENSITIVES STOP SELF-SOOTHING~~ ASSERT CLEAR BOUNDARIES and The Meditation and Mindfulness Summit, which is completely free.

William's eLetter 15 May 2020

EMPATHS SENSITIVES STOP SELF-SOOTHING ASSERT CLEAR BOUNDARIES

___________________________ Hello Everyone Wishing you all good health through these changing times. I give thanks and count my blessings that my family and I are all well. Here is a perspective that I hope you find useful. Empaths Sensitives Stop Self-Soothing Assert Clear Boundaries It is obvious isn’t it? If you are sensitive or empathic or an introvert, who feels easily overwhelmed by life or people, you need boundaries. I myself am a sensitive empathic introvert and can be easily wobbled by other people’s vibes. I know very well how to self-soothe and use calming techniques. They are great and useful. They certainly work well when I am on my own. But when I am out in the world dealing with people and everything else, I need more than self-soothing. I need boundaries. Why? Because the self-soothing mindful calming techniques will, in fact, just make me more of a passive sponge. That is a horrible thought — being a passive sponge. But that is exactly what happens if we self-soothe and calm ourselves when faced with hostile or difficult behaviour and vibrations. We just become receptive radar dishes absorbing all the crap. Not good. I talked about this when I was recording the interview for The Shift's Mindfulness & Meditation Summit which takes place starting next Monday 18th for four days. The very experienced woman in charge of the video/audio technology said afterwards that this was the first time she had ever heard that. “I’m a sensitive empath and no one has ever told me to assert my boundaries. That makes total sense.”

In fact I have been teaching how to assert boundaries for decades. My best techniques are in my books Psychic Protection and Feeling Safe. I also have an online Psychic Protection course you can find here at Watkins Wisdom Academy.  Especially for women who from a very young age have had to endure unwelcome intrusions of their boundaries, it can be crucial to learn to respect and assert your space. — I recommend books on ‘assertiveness training.’ — I suggest too that people do twelve months of a martial art so as to learn the minimal strategy of throwing a kick or punch and asserting your boundary. You may never need to throw that punch, but that attitude will be in your aura and be felt by bullies who will back off. — Sometimes I suggest that folk should wear a watch that beeps every hour (I have a £6 Casio that does the job) and that every hour they pause and assert clearly and loudly to themselves: This is my space! My boundaries! Respect! Do that sixteen times a day for a few months and things will change. Being strong and clear is good for everyone — and is a natural human right. As always, do it with love and good humour. * I hope that is all of the above is helpful. The huge silver lining to being empathic and sensitive is that we can also feel all the good things. And of course — if you are strong, healthy and have clear boundaries — be chivalrous and kind. * The Meditation and Mindfulness Summit, which is completely free, starts next Monday. Sign in and you will get a full timetable etc.  Click here to sign up. All my love. William 💚

WIlliam Bloom PO Box 3662, Glastonbury, Somerset BA6 8ZY • UK (44) (0) 1458 370102   •   www.williambloom.com