(A book, the book referred to the previous post)....... Autoimmunity and the Good Girls: How Permission to Put Ourselves First Has the Power to Keep Us Well Hardcover – June 2, 2026 by Sara Hirsh Bordo (Author) 4.2 on Goodreads 22 ratings #1 Best Seller in Immune Systems......( I haven't read this yet, but will be soon. Having already walked this story myself, and latterly, been investigating my own and Familial (trauma) responses that deliver autoimmune responses to the body to.... finally bring us into a submission that floors us. AND, when finally flat on the floor...we can start the impulse to see into where, when, what and why ...OUR bodies starts this autoimmune response (IT IS the campaign to bring you back to YOU).....So, Resonating with this theme, it has become apparent to those that know and feel that THINGS NEED TO CHANGE (that includes all the hidden traumas and psyche wierdness considered normal).... to produce healthy balanced humans to populate the earth, from the ground up, and from which new Earth Grows,... through the dynamic symbiosis with its people, The weeds that have entangled us as low lying fruit...have to pulled up...So this is one theme that women mainly, but some males will also resonate with, and equates to the deeply unbalanced, issue of carrying the heavy weight (emotional weight/physical weight ) for others for so long, and those that do, have taken on that responsibility, or accepted it, consciously or unconsciously, or both in many cases. Empathic natured souls OR souls that have had the SACRIFICE 'gene' somehow embedded (possibly from life times), and those that have been taught to abandon their own needs in service of ...'servicing others's needs. To detrimental life consequences for the self. How to give yourself permission to thrive...So This may seem funny , even absurd but it is a thing I have experienced...Waiting to be given PERMISSION \\\\\ This is a 'silent energy' spider web of energy, although not obvious, is best described as when a servant has filled their duty, they have 'earned' permission to go to their room and rest...//// But in a bigger outside life 'Waiting for permission' is like being granted permission, by a higher order.. ONCE it is EARNED, and recognised that you have done the dishes, you are free to thrive in whatever ways you SEE to be free. But usually exhausted this type of freedom won't amount to much. After all the chores, looked after this person, raised the kids, done this work, carried this burden, worked at this job to pay the bills, etc etc, all done in love, but usually negating self love, as the duties concerned come first...Hidden agendas and other manipulations are usually woven in here too... But THE BIGGERE SENSE OF permission is not coming IN TO YOU FROM anyone else. Even if recognised a job well done....BECAUSE the status quo of """ everyone else being supported to be their best, or live their best life""" depends on you being available to do the supporting for them. To carry the tasks that allow others to be free to be themselves...So Permission IN THE BIGGER SENSE has to come from yourself. Takes a long time to realise "don't need anyone else's permission to do, or to be...It takes some time to figure this out, and even more time to embody your own permission...Especially if there if are empathic and psychic qualities at play here because you are always 'SENSING and seeing the absence, the lack and limitations' for others....So you want to input your provisions to balance life them...for the others and can't see where that creates the imbalance in your own life...AND SO....the body has been measuring this imbalance and comes up with its own score card. Create a PERMISSION DREAM BOARD and place it near the 'Fuckit account ' balance' sheet...that way you add cash more.... when you acknowledge the Permission comes from only YOU....Michaela)

"This illuminating volume will liberate many women from self-suppression and its frequent consequence, physical illness."— Gabor Maté M.D. New York Times bestselling author of The Myth of Normal Foreword by Dr. Richard Carmona MD, MPH, FACS, 17th Surgeon General of the United States The inspirational, deeply researched wellness journey by the award-winning filmmaker, activist, and founder of Women Rising, shining a light on how too many girls are trained to self-silence and serve others—and how we can heal. For generations, women have been told to be “good”—to put others first, to silence their own voices, to neglect their own needs. But a new groundswell of evidence reveals the cost: when our lives are compromised, so are our immune systems. Raised in a big Texas-Lebanese family as the eldest and only daughter, Sara Hirsh Bordo grew up caring for everyone else’s needs at the expense of her own. Later, as an acclaimed director lifting up other women’s stories, she watched her own body collapse under the weight of autoimmune disease and cancer. Only when she finally reclaimed sovereignty over her own voice, did she heal. Determined to understand this link, Sara funded the first quantitative research at the intersection of female empowerment and autoimmunity. The results were groundbreaking: women raised in caretaker roles—especially eldest daughters—are disproportionately likely to develop autoimmune diseases such as Hashimoto’s, lupus, multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, and more. This study, endorsed by former U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Richard Carmona, garnered national media attention and has been shared across 20 countries. In these pages, you will find: How compromised girlhood identities create compromised immune systems in womanhood—and how to rewrite your story. Impacts of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) on autoimmunity and poor health. Stunning findings from her research, such as more than 6 in 10 women with autoimmune diseases were raised as the oldest or only daughter in their families What radically changes in health when authenticity, environment, and self-permission finally align. Inner girlhood work, including re-mothering through modern and mystical feminine archetypes. How to unlearn your primary role as a caregiver and practical guides for evolving from “good” to “real” at any age. Weaving together memoir, exclusive expert interviews, evidence-based findings, and women’s personal stories, Autoimmunity and the Good Girls is a rousing testament to the missing modality in women’s health— sovereign self-permission to speak up, to transform, and heal.